The
reading this week about the sexualization of children was very
informative. I once heard it said that
sex sells. So, it is no wonder to me
that the media, clothing industry, toys, books, and music are all capitalizing
on the innocence of children. As Levin
& Kilbourne (2009) state, “Children
growing up today are bombarded from a very early age with graphic messages
about sex and sexiness in the media and popular culture” (p. 2). The images portrayed focus on outer beauty
rather than inner beauty. As a mom of a
five year old, there is a battle taking place with the culture. I found it interesting that Levin &
Kilbourne (2009) point out that information about sex, given in a
developmentally appropriate way, is not the problem; the problem is the message
about sex and sexuality that children are receiving.
I am trying
to raise my daughter to have a healthy view of herself as any parent
would. I love the chapter in the Bible
(Proverbs 31:10-31) that discusses a virtuous woman. I want my daughter to grow up to become a virtuous
woman. With the messages and bombardments
that come from the cultural view of beauty and sex, there is a battle with the
culture. One of the ways that we have
really been floored is in clothing, especially summer clothing. Bikinis for toddlers and young girls? Why is that necessary? At an early age, children are given the message
that the more skin, the better. And do
not forget the shoes. We were sandal
shopping the other day at a department store.
In my daughter’s size, there were hardly any girl sandals that were not
two plus inches with a wedge heel and to me very adult looking. Can this even be healthy for the children’s
feet? At another department store we
were looking for church dresses. The
dresses in the children’s section looked like they were from some prom somewhere! Lacy, low cut, strapless, just to name a
few. Shorts are another area that is way
too sexy! I am amazed that for young
children, they are so short. Again, what’s
the purpose? Obviously, it sells!
I agree
with the authors when they discuss the damaging effects of sexualization at
such an early age. I think that children
are seeing that beauty comes from sexiness rather than what type of person you
are. I think perhaps one of the outcomes
of this is that violence can occur as well as negative self image.
I think
this week has made me feel that I am not alone.
There are others concerned about this same topic as me. In the classroom, I need to try to make sure
that I am doing what I can to combat these views and teach truths. Of course, involving families and making sure
they are aware of resources and research is a step in the right direction.
Levin,
D. E., & Kilbourne, J. (2009). [Introduction]. So sexy so soon: The new
sexualized childhood and what parents can do to protect their kids (pp.
1-8). New York: Ballantine Books. Retrieved from: http://dianeelevin.com/sosexysosoon/introduction.pdf
Hi Kristi,
ReplyDeleteIt is hard to find anything for children especially girls that I feel is a little over the top. Meaning that it makes them look way to grown-up for their age. The really big thing for me is the way society pictures sexy. You know the slender built women that wears the sexy cut clothing. I have never fit in with this crowd. I have always been to "fluffy". I enjoyed reading your post.
Luci
Kristi,
ReplyDeleteParents have to protect their children from media that corrupts and promotes sexuality. Also, parents can control what children wear and buy. Therefore, parents have to stop giving into children and the media.
Kristi,
ReplyDeleteMy husband and I have talked at length about the bikini issue. Whereas we see no point in a young child wearing one, especially when it means more skin to cover with sun screen, we also do not want her to grow up with a poor body image. How do we as parents and educators teach children to be modest as well as proud of their appearance?
Kristi,
ReplyDeleteA child's first teacher is their parent. It is a parents responsibility to monitor what their child is watching and listening to. We as parents and early childhood professional can not allow the media to take charge. Children do not take care of themselves so we have to make sure that we provide age appropriate things to wear and media they are experiencing.
Kristi,
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for your blog. I too am trying to raise my two daughters to understand respect and respect for themselves. I really appreciate your thorough blog because your understanding is helping me as well.